Last weekend our family went out to lunch to celebrate the birthday of my daughter-in-law, Courtney. She chose Spring Creek Bar-b-que, which is a well-known restaurant around this area of Texas, and a family favorite.
One of the things I love about Spring Creek is their warm rolls. They are so divine! You get one on your plate with your meal and then a hostess walks around with a huge basket filled with warm rolls, carrying a long-handled tongs to keep you well supplied with hot rolls. The rolls are heavenly with butter melted in the middle and are perfect for sopping up the last tidbits of sauces and meat.
Of course, Samantha was not hungry. She was just too excited to eat. Before coming the restaurant, her parents had taken her to the animal shelter to pick out a new animal companion, a kitten. They had visited this kitten the week before and he seemed to choose Sammie as much as she was choosing him. He is black and his name is Jinx. She calls him Jinxy Boy. So with all this going on, she was just to excited to sit still and eat anything.
Never the less, Courtney split up a roll into pieces and buttered them, then placed them on a napkin in front of Sammie. After awhile she finally sat down and reached for a piece of roll. Immediately she dropped it back down and exclaimed “this bread is wet!”
Samantha does not eat wet bread. It did not matter that it was butter, the bread was wet and it was unacceptable to her.
This caused me to start thinking about that old saying “you need to remember what side your bread is buttered on”. Any of you remember that?
What it means is that you should realize who is providing for you and show appreciation and gratitude. It can also work against you. If you are in a bad relationship but you have no wherewithal to get away and on your own, you do whatever is necessary to keep the peace and get along, because you know what side your bread is buttered on.
I heartily agree that our lives are better when we show gratitude and appreciation for the blessings we receive in life. Not to do so is selfish and wreaks of entitlement.
But I think Sammie makes a good point as well. This bread is wet! A person, especially girls and women, needs to be able to butter their own bread! This idea is called empowerment.
In order to empower yourself you will need to realize that you are strong and brave, that you are gifted and talented. Tune into your intuition. If you feel like you do not trust your intuition, practice it. There are many books available on this topic. The main thing is: you already know what you need to know, and if anyone tells you differently then you must be strong enough not to listen!
You have a right to choose the kind of life you want to live. You have a right to choose the teachers in your life. I am not talking about public school here. I am talking about parents, coaches, leaders, friends, parents of friends, counselors, spiritual leaders, ministers, the list goes on. You choose these people yourself. If they do not serve your well-being and growth, make another choice. In the end you become what you choose to be, you become what you think you are.
I want to repeat that. You. Become. What. You. Think. You. Are.
If you don’t like who you are, change the way you think about yourself. Practice a new thought, and it will become part of you.
Sammie finally did eat some food. Her daddy bribed her with banana pudding. One bite of meat, then one spoonful of pudding. ( hey, anyone remember a song like this? Let me know if you do, I am curious to see who comes up with the same answer I am thinking of!)
Sammie knows who butters her bread. She is too young to butter it herself right now. But she is only three years old. Her parents, grandparents and great-grandparents are in her life because she chose us. We will make sure she learns to butter her own bread.
Women, girls, listen closely! Butter your own bread. Don’t accept wet bread from anyone just because you don’t think you have any other choice!
You always have a choice!
Please share your thoughts and comments below! Don’t forget to let me know if you remember the song I hinted at in this article!